Gender Wars: Interdependent Dynamics

When Pat Benatar sang “love is a battlefield,” truer words were never spoken. While the dynamics of the individual genders are dissected, reviewed, given archetypes, I see some things missing. As such, allow this Drow to put some paint where it aint.

* Yin/Yang are two parts of the same whole. That whole is usually typified as the world or the group, but seldom is the individual discussed or considered. Rightfully so: if we start evaluating the masculine & feminine parts of the individuals, the sexist pigs and misandrous harpies might start holding a critical account of that particular part that resides within themselves. The fragile human will not do this, but I will do so in this post.

* I find that the sexual strategies that one employs, men pursue and women attract, men dominate and women create/protect something valuable to be conquered, is but one side of the coin. Freud pulled the mask off this dynamic with the anima/animus and I will go one further: When one’s first strategy is successful, the coin is flipped. When women send out the signal to that they are willing and ready to be dominated and when that man responds with his desire to find such a woman and the two forces meet, the clash flips the coin and the pursued uses dominating tactics and the hunter becomes the hunted.

* Subsequently, when a man lands a girlfriend after chasing and courtship, he finds that she takes the baton. “Where are you and when are you going to see me next?” She starts trying to mould and change him in the way that he tried to dominate and conquer her with his willpower; He finds himself in the passive role being dominated by her energy instead of the opposite, and that the delicate flower once desired was indeed a Venus flytrap; and the man that was a strong and swift warrior gave way to someone tender and romantic.

* Man molds woman and woman consumes man. Body language experts the world over know that when a woman likes a man, she will mirror his body language, take on his mannerisms, wear his clothes to bed when she misses him, and even take his family name. Fellas: if she didn’t take your name she doesn’t love you as deeply as she claims; she isn’t proud of you. You can see this on a genetic level when she bears your children: she takes the genetic information and code and replicates it.

* So depending the circumstance and amount of time, one will either employ their dominant strategy or their subconscious strategy. This further illustrates the need to find your compliment so that when you tire of one strategy or reach the wit’s end of it, your other can pick up the slack and carry forth.

Accordingly, the gender wars between feminists and MGTOW, men and women, is but a reflection of the war within each rival faction. The men act more feminine than they should and the women are more aggressive than even their masculine-male counterparts. Both sides riding in the same car and both attempting to grab the wheel while consulting the map. If the world is spinning is out of control, it’s because of this very thing.

Know your role, know your chromosomes,

Love is What The Word Was

Love is:

* Mutual self interest.

You trade what you have to offer in order to get what you want. The 1-2 punch combo; beauty and beast in tandem. Your physical strength (which intimidates) for social power (which charms and lowers defenses). The lack of for the abundance of.

* The hormonal-high that is achieved when a virtue is fulfilled.

When reciprocity occurs, and you get what you paid for and traded for, this transaction is affection. The integrity or fair-trade gives a dopamine boost to the parties involved, but mostly to the giver. The result is desire. Love is the romance of successful business between two parties. When you get into business with someone, it is said that “you’re in bed with” that person.

* A fluid thing.

When the transactions no longer yield results that you value/need, you move elsewhere. Hence why there are so many sexless marriages (for the marriage itself and it’s economic/social provisions are women’s¬†endgame. ) so she no longer has to trade or even show up to the market ready to business; she can get fat, cheat, and do whatever she feels with scant repercussions economically/socially, for any sin or neglect committed by her agency will be seen as a failure on her husband’s competence.

However, the farther a man is away from settling down, i.e a playboy with a harem of harlots, his appeal will signal far and wide for though the traditional institute is trumpeted as virtuous, the laws on the books and the general opinion/economic incentives towards the marriage pact are critical and uninviting to be generous. The lack of stability that a man promises offers him a stable of horses to ride. AF/BB personified: Alpha provides the thrills, and Beta pays the attention and the bills.

* Dying

To be dramatic I’m not, for the lack of fantasy that is encouraged with the readiness of visual stimulation, lack of sexual prudence, and the ease of communication, love is in it’s death throes. To quote my mentor, Ninon De L’enclos, “love dies of indigestion, not starvation”

Perhaps in our life time we’ll see a return to courtship, but I only foresee this happening when we start dying of thirst.

Love is what the word was,


Amoral Adages VIII

* Some people are humans, but most people are parrots: they repeat what they have heard and without investigating; reliably these parrots will parrot things they don’t know with veracity

* If you want to spread a rumor like a wild fire, tell it to a loudmouth, a gossip, or one of the above parrots. Free advertising.

* You can have back payments in child support but no back payments in pussy….gender equality.

* Want to know the truth about someone? Mix in disbelief with your curiosity and wait. Their vanity will kick in like 3 shots on an empty stomach.

* With religion, drugs, alcohol, and games do the hordes keep themselves hamstrung and easy for the picking: #fear is a hell-of-a-drug.

* If you have the time and space to think without interruption, you’re a wealthy man.

* Words rhyme, but people’s rationale and actions don’t. Not to worry: exploit there vocalized intentions, force their hand, expose the inside.

* Starve them of attention and they’ll be hungry for attention.

* Sex you can buy, love you can fake, power you can build on the hearts you break

* Guilt trips are the foot-sweeps of the weak. Don’t apologize for being attacked; the best defense is a good offense.

* Be wrong in private, humble in public, and dependable.

* Ah but the cost of being talented or beautiful is high. Great power = Great Cost.

* The things envious people do to their superiors. They would chop their legs off to see equality done.

* There is no such thing as equality, nor fairness, but a good business deal, a successful businessman, and the rest.



Amoral Adages VII

* Put your wants and needs in the same elixir and drink when you make a decision.

* If you’re honest with dishonest people, you’re honestly an idiot

* A moral man’s undoing is his honor. The evil he combats one day could be the same that saves him tomorrow

* There’s this magical thing called incentive, and he who wields it correctly has power.

* A woman likes you when she mimics you and takes on your nuances; AWALT Women are a piano in need of playing. Play her right and she loves u

* Its not what you deserve, but for what you can negotiate.

* Everything is an asset or liability. Time and energy are finite resources. Do you spend your resources into things that bring profit?

* My girlfriend once said that life is unfair. I told her that “its not about being fair, its about taking advantage” The loser gets sour grapes.

* Confidence means to confide in one’s self. The loudest victim or the most talkative braggart defy confidence by definition

* The feminine energy without the masculine is like a river without a riverbed, and today’s lack of definition proves it.



Amoral Adages VI

* A Best Friend is someone who hates the same things as you

* If you don’t objectify people, you waste people

* People who manage to clutter their life with things and appointments but are unproductive: can they be considered adults? No. Grown children

* Evil is what most are afraid will happen to them or are too feeble to undertake. Be a good man and rest while paying others to do evil for u

* People are more dangerous and more delicious in the flesh…..why watch them on T.V. when you can be lovers and fight with and against them?

* If you want to understand the world or the people in it, battle them. A healthy respect and clear knowledge of an opponent means

* Why choose less than powerful and smart people to learn from, regardless of creed, politics, or gender?

* If you don’t allow other’s to laugh at you, you’ll make a joke out of yourself. When you laugh at them, they’ll get quite serious.

* Talking and arguing with idiots is like seeing shit in the street: don’t loose your cool, simply walk around it. No good will come of it.

* If your circle consists of opposing and conflicting viewpoints from highly intelligent beings, you’re in the danger-zone. Think dangerously.

* You dont argue with passionate people, you exploit them. Stir emotions as needed and a little dangling carrot before their eyes and voila

* Skilled whores & lovers have a flirtatious yet mechanical relationship with the senses, a open-door/closed mouth relationship with reality.

* Sadism has functional outlets: making people laugh/treating someone with respect. These will turn the self-destruct switch on.

* Women Don’t have a sexual prime of 30: the biological clock is ticking so loud in her ears that only a baby/husband could silence the noise

* Using someone and abusing someone is only divided with how much the “victim” likes it.

* Power is found in the eye of the storm, it’s indelible calm in surrounding chaos. The poster child is merely the pawn out front.

* Your life isn’t out of control: you’re disorganized and anxious, thinking the world is spinning when life changes it’s rhythm for no one.

* Life is a cycle of cycles. Prepare for the past in different clothes and friends and enemies with different names, but same archetype

* Weakness is a weapon aimed right at the strong to say that they’re greedy, or priveledged, and always wrong

* The difference between smart people and dumb people is that smart people KNOW they are dumb, and dumb people don’t

* If you don’t want them to find your secrets, put them on the front porch

* Its not slander if it’s true, but it does mean war.

* The bird sings sweeter when it goes into the cage on its own. Sweeten the deal, sour the options, and never force their hand.



Amoral Adages V

* Your intelligence is in direct proportion to your work, your power to how many/who defer to you

* Keep your audience confused, amused, and they’ll keep watching whatever you want them to

* No one is safe. You can die at any moment. You can be made a memory without trying, yet how long have you been unharmed? Don’t fear, thrive.

* Some do like being led by the nose or used as a pawn; anything that doesn’t wake them from sleep or make them responsible.

* Whatever the weapon: religion, guns, government; it is the weapon, but it’s more the wielder.

* They dont wanna hear THE truth, but THEIR truth.

* If you’re stupid in one area and smart in another, play to your strengths and outsource your weaknesses to a 3rd party who needs what u have

* If you must attack someone, attack their ideas and dip your words in humor. The court of public opinion hates bullies & loves entertainment

* Assert someone’s best qualities in public squares and question their ugly flaws in private circles. This is called grace

* If you know someone’s secret or their Achilles Heel, keep it a secret or prepare to be attacked, thwarted, and slandered

* Everyone is a good person; stress makes them forget. Some are idiots who need a harder reminder of than others. (Of course their are monsters, but do you count them as people once they get to that point? Of course not. They inspire fear, not sympathy)

* If you want to be avoided, be honest and out-spoken. Even the softest word spoken unfiltered will be too bitter for most.

* Trust everyone…..for what is in their nature and self-interest. All else is unrealistic.



Amoral Adages IV

* Its not whether your lover/friend is an angel/devil, but the time of day.

* Madness comes for us all if lucky, and desperation if unlucky.

* Most friendships are mutual-self gratification or a symbiosis of hatred/fear.

* Submit, yield, and become absorbed into their being with deference and kindness….then turn into poison and eat them from within

* The wo-prefix on “women” stands for “without” or “w/o.” Woe-men or sad people. “Womb-men” or childish.

* When you see people who are weighed down by their burdens instead of lifting them like weights, ignore the wretch and go merrily on your way

* Ignorance is bliss for the willfully ignorant, and misery for those who want personal power

* Blaming gives power to the other person, by giving them responsibility for their failure. Hypocritical when most wouldn’t give away rewards.

* Evil = What the weak don’t benefit from or are unable to control. As soon as it wears their jersey or waves their flag, it becomes noble.

* Find out what success costs and pay happily



Amoral Adages III

* When you are a wolf, take on the ways of the lamb, that way even when you lose, they’ll never see your hand.

* Life is short and life is sweet, people are bitter cuz they can’t compete.

“When people get scared, get greedy” W. Buffett

* Communism and collectivism is the savior of the mediocre. It is no wonder that so many, despite it’s bloodied past, want it

* Take your philosophy/religion and toss it off a a building. If it’s too rigid, it will break. What survives you keep, what dies you leave.

*  Violence may seldom happen to you, but it takes only one-time to change everything.

“Stay ready and you don’t have to get ready.”

* For a man: many trials, many tools.

* How do you help someone ostensibly hell-bent on self destruction? Help yourself to better company.

* We all choose how fast we walk towards death

* Swimming in a pool of other’s perception, delusions, fears, and whimsy; if you can’t manipulate yourself you’ll get swept in the undertow

* Imitation is flattery….unless you’re losing then its mockery. Don’t be delusional: success gets arrows and invitations, failure gets apathy



Amoral Adages II

* Armchair experts for each of your problems, but few will roll up their sleeves and do the dirty work with their mouths closed

* The one who rubbernecks will surely follow suit and crash themselves. Those who keep their eyes on the road/surroundings win

* Fascism / Political Correctness : “If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all”

“Remember a woman’s birthday but never her age”

* Quick declarations aren’t valid promises

* You can lead a horse to water, and then you can sell its body for money.

* Want a friend? Give em what they desire; Want an enemy? Give em what they need.

* If its been said before, does not mean repetition is unnecessary. If its the truth, it needs protection from those who profit from diplomacy

* Ideas are more dangerous than race: people of all ethnicities rally around an idea like a fireplace, but can be divided in one glance

* Improvement, when administered as insidiously as poison, can be as unfettered but with beneficial effects: brick by brick, houses are built

* Your enemy is what you fear/envy. Kimmuriel says invite your demons to lunch so they become your allies instead.

* The devils pretend to be kind, the well-informed pretend to be blind.



Amoral Adages

* You wanna know how stereotypes have veracity? The group stereotyped will trumpet the good ones and deny the bad ones.

* Give someone a compliment and their pride expands; give someone a mirror and their delusions shatter.

* People are nuanced, sure, but indelibly simple. The illusion comes from their confusion which gives them a pseudo-complexity

* Action = Feedback

* Conflict = Experiment

* Peace = Avoiding Impracticable Action

* Strength = Patient Ruthlessness

* If an angel tells a lie, it’s an act of diplomacy, but if the devil tells the truth, it’s an act of hate.

* To be both Shepard & Butcher is not for the passionate. Stick to what you are good at and get paid for. Don’t admire wolves if you’re a lamb

* Try holding onto a delusion when you’re sitting in a dark, quiet room, alone, with only the truth staring from the shadows. Try it, I dare u.

* Those who don’t protect and provide have the strongest opinions about the fairness of the methods of those that protect and provide.